You step into the meeting space and the first thing you do is you own the room. All of it. The stale smell, the stained carpeting, buzzing lights, chipped Formica tables, flimsy flip-chart stand, broken markers and broken dreams. Every last detail. Whose room is this? It's MY room. Own it as it is. Nothing needs to be changed.
You locate the manager. You own him too. His anger, his positionality, his self-doubt, the pain-filled coffee-numbed memories of the lies he's told, of every battle he's been in, of every enemy he has faced like he faces today. His pain is your pain. His fear is your fear. Since you own him, you can do nothing but love him. And his assistant.
Same with the boss. Only, with the boss, you can take the next step. The boss has some kind of vision, or he wouldn't be the boss. Find out what that vision is and commit to it, whatever it is.
You do this instantly. You scan him and listen for commitment and align to that. It's a feeling you get. He is about being a winner, or having power in the space, or being cool, being a rescuer, being famous, receiving acknowledgment, being a hero, being superior, whatever it is. His commitment is your commitment.
He will get where you are as he senses your texture. You don't actually have to say anything to him about it. He is smart.
You know his commitment because you have all the same cravings and desires inside of you. You stop denying how similar you are, then tune into your body and find out where the two of you resonate. Then that's it. You make him an empowered ally by agreeing with him. Easy.
This is not about kissing his ass. He'll see that and hate you for it because it reminds him of his own smallness. Be with him being to being. Find out what his commitment is and commit to it so that he knows for certain. He gets that you are committed to what he is committed to. In this way, you have just owned him. You have just owned the boss.
Then get out of his way. Go get set up. Handle it impeccably. If you need something, get it. If you need something to happen, make it happen. Not like a jerk. Like a mature adult. Do not complain about ANYTHING. Even energetically. You are not a victim. Remember, all of this is yours. You set it up this way for yourself. If you want it different, make it different. There is no one to blame.
You are working all the time. Every move you make is the move of a Possibility Manager in action. No one here knows what that is, so you do not have to stay linear. You can require the unpredictable and assume it will be delivered. Every motion is an expression of the Principles that you serve working through you. It is not about you. If they sense that you are there, you are dead. Be dead to start with and then they can't make you out to be the enemy because you are not there.
Do not rush. Leave time for the unexpected. People will come around you to get some of what you have. Don't make them wait. Share your power without giving away your center. Your generosity will often be a surprise to them. Some of the excuses people use to get your attention will be ridiculous. Do not get hooked by the reasons. The purpose is always the same - to be touched by someone serving something greater than themselves. Be abundant with your attention. Not fawning. Straight and clean. There is no inauthenticity or pretense in making contact. Everything is valuable if you regard it with value.
So, it's time to start and there is still side-talking. The manager is busy letting everyone know that he owns you because he called you in for this meeting. You have to wait until he remembers you are there and gives you the floor.
If you are hooked by this simple power struggle you lose the space. Instantly. The truth is that you are not a victim of anything. You own the room. You are committed to what the boss is committed to, so rather than confronting the entity head on, you agree with it. You join the party. Without hesitating you start playing along with the conversation, only clearer, serving bigger purposes, providing more value, with more love.
You are there to heal the entire company, so you start now. Laugh while you take over the space. The glee is contagious. Soon enough the side-talk will cease so people can hear what you are saying, so people can be with you - because they want to be with you now. They want you. You are the doorway for their new possibility. And you are in action already. You've always been in action. You never stopped.
The whole group is there now, gawking at you. What do they want? What are they doing here at this meeting? They could be anywhere in the world right now, at the beach, at home with their kids, out playing golf, and here they are in this room with you. What do they want?
They want the Possibility and Clarity that you represent. They want you to be big. And they want you to love them. Speaking is fine. If you speak well, that's a bonus. But these people are not here for what you say. They can get that from a book or magazine article; they could get it off the net. These people are here for hope and distraction from their pain. Mostly they are here for you. They want your life.
That could scare the wits out of you. So many vampires after your powerful blood. So many witches wanting to mess with your sex energy and eat you up. So many nut-cases wanting to fool with your head and screw you sideways. This is all true. And it's only one way to look at it - the viewpoint of a victim.
You remember what it says in the Handbook: "A POSSIBILITY MANAGER IS NOT A VICTIM OF ANYTHING."
The way you see things is a matter of your own creation. You can have it any way you want it. Vampires, witches, nut-cases... it's all a matter of interpretation. Ask yourself, "Where is my center?" Bring your center back into your body and your intention back to your purpose. I am here to serve. I am here to make a difference. I am here to give it all away. This moment right now is the most important moment of my entire life. It is also the most important moment of their entire lives. What do I want to create with them here?
Speak to them directly. Look at them in the eyes and talk to them. Let the light shine through you. Speak the truth. It is okay to be way bigger than you "really" are. This is theater, but it is true theater, not false theater. This is not acting. It is shifting your identity. Give the juice to them. Include them with you as if they were your closest brothers and sisters. Care about them. You are not giving your power away, because it is not your power. It is the power of the Principles you serve. You are using that power, and you are giving your heart away, raw. Let them know you. Connect with them.
In your position it is tempting to act like you are clean and they are disgusting, like you know and they don't have the answers, like you are superior and they are all sick and broken. Don't go there. Eternal vigilance is the price of freedom. Do not get sucked into serving your own Hidden Purpose.
Nothing is true, regardless of circumstances, regardless of the evidence. There is never a forgone conclusion. You can make it up however you want it. You have the power to reinvent these people by publicly reinventing your experience of them. You are not here to rescue victims of the hierarchical bureaucracy; you are here to declare the truth, to make Clarity and Possibility available. This is not a dirty boring job to do. This is your Destiny. You have earned this.
Do not shy away from the experience of your power and influence. It is okay. You are being held by a power far greater than you know. You are not doing this. It is happening through you. Open wide the channel and let the juice flow. You do not have to know what will come out of your mouth next. You are coaching intuitively. You do not have to be predictable. You do not have to justify your existence. You are the space through which the Principles that you serve do their work. These people want you to be big so that they can receive those gifts. They want you to be big so that they can have the Principles as their allies.
Speak for the people. Bring the background of their conversations into the foreground for them. Notice them. Be one of them so that their team includes you. You are the archetype of Possibility for them. If you are okay with the experience of being reinvented, then they can be too. If you can include them in a conversation that really works for everybody, then they get to see something they never experienced before: teamwork, bonding, camaraderie, a functioning configuration. Knowing that this kind of thing is truly possible is an immensely eye-opening gift.
Speak to them! Be in relationship with them. Say Hello! We are all in this together. Wake up about that. Your part is to be the focus of attention and to use this attention for something honorable, exciting and fun. Go ahead. People will do anything to serve a good King (or Queen). This is what they truly want - to dedicate themselves to following a good King. You do not have to know what you are doing in order to do it. If you can accept your own mistakes as no different from learning, so can they. And what a valuable lesson this is for them.
You are the spokesperson for Possibility. You are the catalyst for Clarity. You are the magician of delight. You are the gateway for the expression of their deepest concerns and longings.
Get off it! Get off your selfish pride. You still think that you have face to save? Forget about it. If you still had any face worth saving you would not be a Possibility Manager. Being concerned about saving face is just ego. Being big and present and relational is your proper position in the space - filling your post with impeccability. Being big is not presumptuous. Being shy and withdrawn and reasonable is presumptuous.
You are licensed to glow. You are certified to radiate. You no longer have to explain yourself. Work can be 1000% fun, 1000% serious, and 1000% profitable all at the same time. Do you think you can do your job by being a wet rag? Playing dead is a game of revenge. Tell your Gremlin to, "Sit!"
What if it is perfectly okay for you to be alive and happy? What if it is okay for you to be you as a Possibility Manager? Fully tapped out. Pedal to the metal. Go!
Sing until the song sings you. Allow yourself to be moved to tears. So what? The bigness of your vision is true. Let it blast through you so it can do its work in the space. Sing out for everyone.
Yes you can. You have always wanted to do this level of work with people. You have always wanted to give this much. It is okay. Go ahead. The world has been waiting for you. When you let yourself be moved by Service, then Service will move you. It is always a new beginning. Do not worry about it. Let it rip forth. You have gotten this job on your bench because you can do this job. By putting it all out there it makes room for the next thing to show up. Take the risk to be big. If you won't, who will?
Timidness and uncertainty are so painful. Try something different. Try being absolutely certain and sure, just as an experiment. It is easy. Possibility Managers are granted permission to do this. Pain only comes from withholding and blocking the flow of value that is begging to pass through your eyes and lips, your touch. Let yourself expand beyond all your imagined limits. Take the risk to be big.
Just Go! and Go! And when it is all over, when they flock around to give you their appreciation and thanks, let it in. Receiving their gift to your Bright Principles is also a gift to them. Otherwise you are too good for their praise, and you kill them. You do not have to worry about receiving praise, because the praise is not for you; it is for what you represent. If you let it go through you then you are the connection that allows people to send their praises to Life for letting them be alive. It is okay to be that. You have permission. Let it in, pass it on up the line, and say, YES! All of it is celebration.
Clean up efficiently. Even the little pieces of masking tape and dropped pushpins. Smile and nod while you put the chairs back in place. Do not exchange substances with the fans. Leave nothing behind but your gratitude. Vanish from the space, and then vanish the space. Conserve your energy. Your next job awaits you. In fact, it is happening right now.
Vanish from the space. Vanish the space. Leave no trace.